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Why I never get anything done and how falling in love changes everything

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This post is inspired by two of my most recent Accomplishments – Accomplishments for which I am More Proud of Myself than for anything else I have accomplished these past two months. Yesterday and the day before, I renewed my vehicle registration AND FURTHERMORE had my newly-registered vehicle inspected.

And that needed to happen. Like, really needed to happen. One of my stickers expired in May, and the other had been out of date since January. Although I should say that I hadn’t actually noticed either of them until Dan pointed them out Sunday night. I’d been just tootling along the roads of Dallas, totally oblivious that I could be pulled over any minute.

This is Teresa writing, by the way—and I am an ENFP.

If you don’t know, those letters refer to my personality type under the Meyers Briggs Personality Test—a psychological system that breaks the various personalities of the world into sixteen types, the descriptions of which are surprisingly detailed and freakishly accurate. Your type depends on your answer to four questions:

  1. Are you Introverted or Extroverted?
  2. Are you iNtuitive or Sensing? (Do you see the world as it could be or as it is in the present moment?)
  3. Are you a Thinker or a Feeler? (Do you base your decisions off of rational thoughts or emotions?)
  4. Are you a Judger or a Perceiver? (This one is always the hardest for me to explain. As far as I understand it judgers are organized and punctual and perceivers are disorganized and tardy. Serena, any further light you can shed on this??)

So when I say I am an ENFP, I mean that I am an Extroverted Intuitive Feeling Perceiver! And that’s why I never get anything done. You see, though ENFPs are, in fact, known for many good things (creativity, enthusiasm and charm among them!)

Bill Cosby is an ENFP! Isn’t he so charming? I’ve always thought he was so charming.

they are also known for many (it sometimes strikes me as MORE than most personality types) bad things… like oversensitivity, gullibility, and extreme ineptness at routine, maintenance-type tasks.

Alicia Silverstone. From “Clueless.” Also an ENFP. Charming but, yeah, inept.

You may say, “Teresa, everyone hates routine, maintenance-type tasks! Get over it!” to which I say, “NO. I HATE IT SO MUCH MORE THAN YOU DO.”

Because ENFPs live in the world of exciting possibilities, the details of everyday life are seen as trivial drudgery. They place no importance on detailed, maintenance-type tasks. And will frequently remain oblivious to these types of concerns [e.g., cruising around Dallas illegally for five months]. When they do have to perform these tasks, they do not enjoy themselves. This is a challenging area of life for most ENFPs, and can be frustrating for ENFP’s family members.

I’m pretty sure my mom laughed for a long time when I first read this to her. Out of recognition. And relief. That she is not alone.A

And because she recognizes that the above is an accurate description of my faults, she knew to be really impressed when I came home yesterday with my beautiful new stickers, before I got pulled over. Because that’s what usually happens. I don’t do my paperwork, and I go along all happy and oblivious and frolicking until I fall flat on my face.

Like this, only less cute.

So why am I doing this?? Why am I putting myself through the horrible, no-fun, stress-stress, ugly-ugly, mundane work of renewing my stickers without the outside impetus of getting a ticket from a mean Dallas policeman??

I’ll tell you. I’m in love. I’m in love!! In case anyone in the world doesn’t know by now: I’m in love. With an ISTJ.

Um, how could I resist including this? I couldn’t.

ISTJ. ENFP. …ISTJ. …ENFP. Wait a second. Are there any letters AT ALL in common between these personality types???

No.

No there are not.

As you might guess, that means that there is also very little (so… so little) overlap between those personalities. One of the largest differences is that ISTJs are extremely (EXTREMELY) motivated to fulfill duties and do things “by the book.” Things like getting your stickers renewed. Things that are un-exciting and un-fun and that people like me only do when they are held at gunpoint and/or in love.

WHERE AM I GOING WITH ALL THIS

I’m wondering the same thing myself at this point because this post is not writing itself at all the way I intended it to. Ah, spontaneity. One of my better qualities right? Right??

Sigh. Alicia Silverstone. Even her faults are charming.

  1. You have a personality type too! Odds are it’s not the same as mine, but I’d recommend that you find out what it is, because…
  2. Every personality type comes with its own strengths and weaknesses.
  3. Knowing your weaknesses helps you start to fix them.
  4. You may be wondering HOWWWW you can fix those weaknesses and THAT (finally) is why I’m writing this post. Until yesterday, I did not know how to fix them either! But yesterday, after renewing two tiny, inconsequential slips of paperwork attached to my Ford Taurus and then writing an email to Dan to convince him that even though this is considered standard behavior he should be exceedingly proud of me for doing so… I stumbled across an article entitled, “ENFP Personal Growth.” It not only identifies my strengths and weaknesses–it gives concrete suggestions as to how to combat them.
  5. Do yourself a favor and figure out your own personality type then read the article about you.

You won’t regret it. Seriously that’s why I wrote this post. Plus you’ll get to go read all about yourself. And isn’t that everyone’s favorite thing? By now you’ve been reading a lot about… me. Boresville.

Meta-blog.

I am also, in fact, writing this post right now as a small step towards combating my own greatest weakness, a weakness I knew but re-discovered through my Meyers Briggs Personality profile. You see, when Rachel and I started this site we were super excited… but that was last week… and I lost steam thinking about allllllllll the blog posts I would have to write—and I started to talk myself down from the endeavor entirely.

But when I read the description of the ENFP tendency to abandon projects once they lose their charm, I thought, “Whoa, whoa, this is sounding familiar… Rachel and I had so much enthusiasm for that blog thing and then I lamed out and moved on to something different… I CAN’T LET THIS HAPPEN. I must blog! I must blog about this realization that I am having… about my blog! And me! And my weaknesses! And how I’m in love with Dan so I want to be a better person so I’m not going to let those dumb weaknesses get the better of me ANY MORE!”

And that, my friends, is why I wrote this post. Because I SAID I was going to. And gosh darn it, I just did.

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